Much of the writing that I do on this blog centers around teen library stuff…cool things that are going on, input on how to pull off projects, and more. It’s meant for an entirely librarian audience. Recently, a few teens in my community recently asked me about my blog (they found it through a Google Search) and why I only write about library stuff. My response was: “Well, that’s what I do. I’m a librarian and I like to share the cool things we do in the library.” He came back with this: “Why don’t you ever write anything for teens that tell us about what life is like and all that, you know, stuff about growing up? That’s what I thought you’d write about.” So that got me thinking about a post for teens. And this is that post…
Hey teens that have used the library in the past, present, and future:
Hello from Justin The Librarian. First up, let me say this: thank you. Without you coming into the library to explore, hang out, and keep me on my toes, I wouldn’t have much to do in life. I’d be pretty boring, lazy, and not that exciting. You challenge me to be a better person. Yes, even those times where you give me crap and try to annoy me…those are good times. I dig those.
A lot of you have asked me through the years what it’s like to be an adult and how you can get through this whole growing up thing. I don’t have a magical answer for you, but I can share what it’s been like for me in hopes that you can borrow something from that and go ahead on your own path.
YOU’RE GOING TO BE OK
So you’re stuck in a crazy moment in your life and everything feels pretty shitty. It’s like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel or something like that. Give it time, because you’re going to be ok. Even when things are at their worst, there is someone out you that cares for you. It could be a parent, a sibling, a relative, a friend, a librarian, or just some random person. They care. Time has this awesome way of moving forward and making everything better. It’s like magic.
GETTING OLDER IS PRETTY AWESOME
You’ve probably heard an adult say that getting older is a pain in the butt. They may say things like “my body always aches, there’s never enough money, you kids cost me so money, there’s never enough time to do this or that” and more. Well, don’t listen to that because it’s not true at all. Getting older is actually pretty awesome.
In your teens and twenties, a lot of people will look at you and your ideas and think they’re a bit bizarre and out there. However, when you get into your late twenties/thirties something interesting happens…now that you’re older, people start to understand that you’ve had the experiences and matured enough that what you’re doing must be legit. It’s kind of awesome. Remember how I helped bring video games into the library for people to play and borrow? When I talked about how libraries should be doing that when I was younger, people thought I was crazy. When I got older and did it people thought it was a really great move. Being 28 years old and having gone through years of video gaming helped me get to do that “crazy thing.” So, yes, your bones may hurt a bit more (it happens) but you get to do a lot of cool shit when you’re older.
HAVING A FAMILY IS NOT THIS HUGE TIME/MONEY/PERSONALITY SUCK
I’ve heard “I don’t want to have kids or a family because it’s too much time, money, and you lose a part of yourself” so many times. That’s all a bunch of crap. Having a family is one of the best things that you can choose to do in this life.
Family makes you stronger. They challenge you to be a better person and to rise above any laziness or selfishness that you may have inside of you. They make you smile. When someone in your family does something amazing, you can’t help but smile and be filled up with joy. You don’t lose who you are when you have a family. You become more of yourself than you’ve ever been before.
That’s not to say that family doesn’t take a lot of time. It does. Anything that you love takes a lot of time. But it’s all good time. The time and love put into your family is one of the best things you can do while you’re here on earth.
YOU’RE NOT A SELL OUT
I used to have long hair. I used to dress a bit cooler than I do now. I used to go a lot more places and do a lot more adventurous things. I had a part time job at a thrift store. These days, my hair is shorter, I wear what feels comfortable to me, and I like to stay at home a lot. I also have a full time job. That’s not lame at all and I haven’t lost my cool or sold out or anything.
As you get older, you change, you slow down, and you start to enjoy every little thing a lot more. You’re not a sell out. In fact, everything is going to plan. You’re growing more into the person that you’ve always wanted to be.
I think you know what I mean here. It’s a funny thing in life, but it’s very true: people can totally tell when you’re faking it. Don’t be one of the people that fakes it. Life is too awesome to spend all of your time pretending that you’re something other than yourself.